Opposite Days

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Today marks one month since NC declared a State of Emergency and two weeks since our Governor issued Stay at Home Orders for us. One month. It sure seems like much longer. Over the last 30 days my family has bonded, argued, laughed, binge-watched tv, gone for walks, rescued the best dog in the history of the world, cried, and cooked meals. We’ve felt scared, organized cabinets, completed yard work, read, worked from home, and chatted with family on FaceTime. Last week we moved our daughter into a new apartment, kept our distance from friends on the sidewalk, shopped for essentials with care, and loved. Mostly, we have loved. We have tried to take care of each other the best ways we know how. Sometimes that has looked like doing each other’s laundry, and other times it has looked like baking cookies. Sometimes it has sounded like. “I’m worried about you going to the store,” and other times it has sounded like short-tempered responses. More times than not, it has sounded like, “I love you!” Sometimes it has felt peaceful, other times it felt like I couldn’t breathe. Many times it has felt like bear hugs from our boys and doggy kisses on my face. Did I mention he’s the best dog in the world?

Like many of you, we are all doing our best to readjust to these new schedules – our new way of life for this time. I continue to teach remotely each day, my husband works via phone, emails, and virtual presentations. My sons stay as active as possible helping out around the house, playing music, exercising, joining in on video games with friends, and training our new furry family member. But some days are hard and that’s just a fact. The stress and uncertainty have taken a toll on all of our emotions at one time or another. We try to help each other and find positive ways to manage and distract. But if I’m honest, there have been days I have failed miserably. For the grace and compassion of my loved ones, I am most thankful. Keeping a healthy outlook is a challenge, for sure. However, I’m trying to view these bonus days at home as a gift of time to complete some projects I’ve been procrastinating doing for months. I’m off to a pretty good start this week. We’ll see how it goes!

According to Myers-Briggs, I am a solid introvert. Big parties and rooms full of people are at the very bottom of my list of “fun things to do”. While I am soaking up this time of solitude and being with my family, it has also caused me to realize how much I do cherish those who are a part of my daily life. On Monday, I had a Zoom meeting with some colleagues. I got teary when everyone first popped up. I miss them – their smiles, their laughter, our conversations. The other day, my son and I took our new dog on a long walk uptown. We ran into a family friend and my first instinct was to reach out to hug her but caught myself in time. So many days have felt backward or out of place. It reminds me of when I would teach antonyms to my students. After a week of studying them, we would celebrate by having “Opposite Day”. We wore our clothes backward and inside out. We spoke in antonyms and ate our desserts first at lunch. These days feel a little like “Opposite Day” – only not as fun. Everything seems inside out, backward, and upside down. Many things feel out of order. No doubt this is tough, but staying apart now means we can come back together again sooner. Isolating for love almost sounds like an oxymoron, but it is a true act of compassion. We choose to separate in order to survive and to protect those we love most. I am choosing to stay at home for my mother and for my son. Their health and safety are worth far more than any inconvenience. Who are you staying home to protect? 


For a myriad of reasons, I’ve allowed my writing to take a back burner for the last couple of weeks, but I am most anxious to get back in the saddle of creating and connecting. I’d love to use this time to hear from you, too. I believe more than ever it is important that we find ways to stay connected while we are apart. Though we must physically separate ourselves, I believe it is critical that we unite emotionally and draw strength from one another. In the coming weeks, I will be sharing some opportunities for us to connect and get to know each other a little better. Each day I will share here and on my social media accounts. Please follow along with me on Facebook and Instagram and join in.

Know that I am most grateful to each of you who takes time out of your day to meet me here. It is my continued prayer for healing, health, and safety across our world. Please stay well and I look forward to seeing you soon!

Sincerely,

Beth

My two very important reasons to stay home – Granny B and my youngest son.

Published by Elizabeth Sharpe

My name is Elizabeth Sharpe, but to most, I'm just "Beth". I am a wife, mom, educator, and lover of all things good and kind. I love to share my stories and reflections to connect with others. It is my hope to encourage and inspire readers in some small way as we journey life together.

One thought on “Opposite Days

  1. Beth I think you have voiced the feelings we are all having in this uncertain time. It is like nothing we have ever experienced in our lives….no matter our age. I miss my daughter (she is closer) my grand boys and my mother-in-law and the fact that we couldn’t all celebrate Larry’s 75th birthday with our son and his family coming to North Carolina. And boy not being able to celebrate Easter Sunday with Honey Baked ham, potato salad, deviled eggs, green beans and corn and a great desert Is not fun! But with all that I think about how lucky we are to be healthy, happy and in love with each other. I tell my family how great it will be when we are all together celebrating birthdays, Easter and life. I have always used the adage….this too shall pass…..and it will. Just think how wonderful it will be to hug our friends and family again. Right now I am sending you a virtual but very warm hug! Thank you for lifting our spirits with your words and thoughts! Happy Easter 💖😷✝️

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